Thanks for the comments @Peter_C, appreciate the thoughtfulness and arguments respectfully made.
@tommo yes I will split this into a new topic, agree we’re indeed getting way off track from the OP.
@JonJon Troy above touched on the broader context of YouTube comments we get often on the Li-sa-X video that play into stereotypes. We do see lots of comments to the effect of “haha there’s always an Asian who can do it better” or similar ‘jokes’ that seem to come at the expense of reducing someone to their race. Again, not assuming ill intent with your initial comments, just some background on why we’d rather not even bring race into the picture if it’s not relevant, and why we may seem touchy on this.
I’ll add some comments from my own perspective…recognizing the can of worms has already been opened and hoping we can continue to learn from each other.
We (Americans) live in a culture with deep roots in both patriarchy and white supremacy. That’s historical fact and it extends to our present-day reality. Not particularly comfortable to confront that, but I think it’s important to do so. This does not mean you or I or any given individual white guy is evil. It doesn’t even mean men in general, or white people in general, are to blame for everything.
It does however mean being honest about the ugly parts of our society, e.g. a history of privileging white lives over black and brown ones, denying women rights, and so on, so that we can collectively work to improve things. As a white guy myself I don’t find it ‘anti-white’ or ‘anti-male’ to acknowledge that structures with white men at the top have been at the root of a lot of bad shit, historically speaking.
There’s a lot to learn about this kind of systemic injustice / power imbalance that we (white guys) aren’t necessarily aware of, whether because we didn’t learn about it in school, or it’s not a part of our lived experience, or both. From redlining to police brutality to the prison industrial complex.
Personally I am privileged in a lot of different ways. This includes white privilege, which all white people benefit from to a degree, plus various other things like being straight, able-bodied, etc. I recognize it’s also true that everyone’s experience is unique and that talking only in broadest demographic terms leaves out a lot of nuance.
There’s similar nuance with e.g. stereotypes about Asians; for example that of the ‘model minority’, where even seemingly positive stereotypes have sometimes been used harmfully, like in the context of comparing racial achievement gaps in this country. Anyway I think it’s important that we do our best to learn both from history and each other’s personal experiences…that can be hard to do on the internet but I’m glad we’re trying. I think there’s value in talking about this stuff and appreciate that we’re able to have the conversation.